PS Forgot - and you've all probably figured out - I haven't replaced the fuse at all since it keeps frying.
It would be the slot between the two 7.5A (purple) fuses

 

Update:
As per suggestions, I have looked up the P/N's for both MPU's for my 2K Accord LX;
Hondapartsnow.com was contacted because the window that is supposed to pop up and tell me year-to-year interchangeability did NOT pop up - hence my call.
Result: HPN phone "tech" says that neither part is currently available, and does not know when they will be available. They are requesting more info from their supplier(s) - whom I assume is Honda.
They also could not provide me with year-to-year interchangeability crosschecking - so much for phone tech support.
I have forwarded my questions to their tech dept. via e-mail - hoping for a promising, or at least info- filled response.
A friend with a trashed '98 Accord EX let me strip out both D and P MPU's from his car - but I don't want to install them (PITA to begin with) and then find out that there is some sort of compatibility problem....
Any/all input or suggestions as to my next step is appreciated.
Thanks!

 

PS - HPN will not answer any e-mailed questions without you supplying your VIN - what's up with that? Are they playing Police?

 

Looking at some sites, it seems as there is a split in the gen - not uncommon - and then there is the trim level difference.

You are looking for 38210-S84-A11 (my guess at the 4dr LX trim). Have you looked at places like car-part "dot" com or other bone yard sites (LKQ, ect)?