hey. i don't know if you figured out the issue with your accord, but it sounded exactly like the issue i was having. everything i did, it still wouldn't turn over at all. i got a flashlight and was looking around under the dash for a while to see if there was any wire loose or something, and i saw on the clutch peddle the very top was suppose to be a plug. it was broken and half, and part of it missing, so when you depress the clutch, the switch didn't engage. i knew there was the lower plug, but didn't know there was a top one. after months of it sitting there, i finally got my accord running...for $4.49 after spending a lot on other parts. either way, in order to replace the plug, i had to take off the clutch peddle to get it in. hope this helps, unless you figured out your issue.

 

Trying to locate starter rely. I've determined it is different from main relay